Why in the world is it so hard to find a decent person to date? Are there any good Catholic guys out there? Where can I find a beautiful girl who shares my faith?
Rachel Hoover, a veteran of the bewildering Catholic dating scene, has had her share of heartache, horror stories, and ho-hum dates. Her sharp-witted new book is about where to find the "good ones," date without desperation, and discover true love:
- Where to find a pretty, good Catholic
- Why you should “default to yes” and date a lot of people
- How to open your mind without lowering your standards
- How to get outside your comfort zone and meet "eligibles" in unexpected places
- How to quit online dating and start online meeting
- When to ditch digital platforms in favor of in-person events
- Why it's okay to go to parish events (even Bible studies) looking for love
- How to be "shallow" as a preparation to "go deep"
- How to escape the annoying friendzone in Catholic circles
- How to stop deluding yourself about male-female "friendlationships"
- Why to STOP conducting "spouse interviews" and instead date like a normal human
- How to date without going too fast or too slow
- How to know if you're even ready to date at all (or when to take a break and work on your own issues)
- How to think about dating non-Catholics. Should you "flirt to convert"?
- How to consider dating a Catholic from another "tribe" (Can a rad-trad marry a charismatic?)
- How to avoid "Sudden Vocational Discernment Syndrome" and stop flip-flopping between marriage and religious life
- Why it's rude to date if you're also seriously considering the convent or seminary
- How far is too far? Or, how to be physically affectionate without having to go to Confession afterwards.
- How to know when you're the problem (and how to deal with your own woundedness)
- How to hope in God, even in the loneliest, darkest, most dejected state of singleness
- Why relationships are sometimes essential for true inner healing
- How to survive long-distance relationships as well as "no-distance" relationships (the ones where you smother your pseudo-spouse)
- How to prioritize your own growth in holiness while dating
- How to know when you've found "the one" and make a peaceful decision
- How to have a happy, healthy, and short engagement
After Rachel graduated from college, she watched her friends get married while she suffered through some tough breakups. That got her thinking deeply about the whole Catholic dating situation, which (as you probably know) has its own set of quirks and challenges. Trying to be proactive, she started a Catholic singles group in the Diocese of Nashville, interviewed people from CatholicMatch, and consulted a range of experts. After writing several viral articles on Catholic dating, she wrote Pretty Good Catholic, which serves as a how-to guide for even the most discouraged single Catholics. Finally, a realistic guide to dating without losing your mind--or your faith.